To love oneself is not bad, the bad thing is believe; believe yourself the center of the universe. Yesterday I was talking to Julio Muñiz, on his podcast Inconfundiblemente, among other things, about the differences between self esteem and selfishness. There are, and bigger than we think.
If you have little time, here's a one-minute video-summary.
- Self-esteem is a habit, at least for me
- Investing in you is not selfishness, it's self-esteem
- Not seeing beyond your beliefs, the worst manifestation of selfishness
- If you don't understand, don't criticize it
- A word of advice if you're selfish
- Ah, I forgot: two reminders
The self esteem it's a habit, at least for me
Among the habits I confessed to Julio that help me a lot to focus my work and my life there is one that stands out:
It helps me a lot to get up early and spend some time walking and meditating. I've been doing that for a long time. 20 years old , And the truth, it's a precious time to sort out ideas, prepare for the day and, since I'm more early bird, take advantage to create and write down or record ideas on my smartphone. I'm not saying that getting up early was the only habit I practice., but thanks to that I can and meditate, keeping myself in physical and mental shape and thinking about new things, content, Name (s, Projects,…
It's a moment of encounter with yourself, it's not loneliness, on the contrary, is self esteem. It is an essential inner dialogue to face the day that comes.
Investing in you is not selfishness, is self esteem
One of my definitions of Personal Branding is: the art of investing in you based on the value you bring to others. Investing in you is not selfish if you then turn knowledge and experience into ideas that improve the lives of others.
Instead, would be selfish if what you learn you use for your own benefit only. I very much agree with Chris Litster, CEO of Buildium, i referred a few weeks ago in the post Leadership, vulnerability and personal brand: Our priority should be to serve people to the planet and the benefits (in that order). When you reverse the order, that's selfishness.
Not seeing beyond your beliefs, the worst manifestation of Selfishness
Among the many manifestations of self-admiration, from Selfishness, is certainly the one that I think does the most harm to humanity. It's about not seeing beyond your beliefs. To think that your way of understanding the world (religion, political, industrial relations, values, Customs, sports affiliations,…) it's the only one possible.
This is doing more damage than all the natural disasters in the world. When you can't put yourself in the shoes of someone who thinks differently from you, when there is no empathy, yes, Selfishness takes over the situation and creates the conflict.
You see a woman wearing a burka at a mall in your city. You have two ways to react: the tolerant (even if you don't share it, you understand and accept it) and the bigoted (you don't accept it because you think outsiders should adapt to our customs).
If you don't understand, don't criticize it
Applying such a philosophy would do us all better. And for the most not been the, without realizing it, I prejudge too fast. Sometimes we talk with contempt for things we don't know. And that's also selfishness, or in this case egocentrism.
If it turns out that you reject everything that doesn't agree with your values and principles and also what you don't understand, your ecosystem is frankly small. You can't travel, you can't talk, relating to others becomes difficult, even as a family... Anyway, a calamity.
A word of advice if you are Selfish
I don't think there's a 100% selfish or selfish 100% non-selfish. We will all have sinned at some point in selfishness. So I propose (if you have outbreaks of selfishness) change them to habits self esteem.
Take a pilot: test for a week that get up early, walking alone, watch the sunrise, reflect, write down ideas.
I assure you that you will avoid creative problems, you'll plan your days better, you will improve your mood and give yourself wonderful moments of tranquility and self-encounter.
The tool I use for this is called acostarsetemprano.ly (Just kidding), but it's true that I don't need an alarm clock because I go to bed early, at about 10 and a half of the night. Sleep is sacred. Look at Trump's case, sleeps up to 4 Daily hours. And that's how our hair looks (it's also a joke). Have a nice week, and remember, invests in self esteem.
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Ah, I forgot: two reminders
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