I often ask myself, how far should I expose myself on the Internet, on social networks? As the singer Alaska said in her most memorable lyrics who cares what I do? who cares what I say?
If you have just a minute, here's a video summary:
Disadvantages of exposing me, the negative side of personal storytelling
I'll be direct: exposing myself is tantamount to undressing. At least in a metaphorical sense. It means revealing moments of my life that perhaps many people do not know. It means showing vulnerabilities, fears, doubts, failures, weaknesses. Yes, exposing myself requires courage .
Perhaps for those of my generation, exposing myself is unnatural. They told us to be discreet, that information is power, and that it had to be managed well. The children of the Cold War grew up with spy movies. The spy was no more than someone who knew how to obtain information at the risk of his life for it. Well, and it still is...
Let me expose bare to troll attacks, Data hunter, advertising algorithms, the same public administration, CEO of social networking without scruple to trade with private data.
Advantages of exposing myself, a way to accelerate empathy
Yes, exposing yourself - properly -- also it has its advantages. It means transmiting personal values, communicating the personal story. Explaining a lot of why, a lot of hows, a lot of whats. Make it clear whether we will fit in with one project or another, with one team or another.
The big question that comes to mind to stage the advantage of exposing me is this: Why should you trust me if you don't know what moves me, what makes me get out of bed every day? Professional relationships no longer only revolve around a value proposition, there is a human being behind it with a purpose and values that act as pillars.
I have been a naive for a long time; and possibly that will accompany me until the end. For years, I have relied on people guided solely by their skills. And I haven't always been right. Now I'm clear. I buy your personal story, your emotional DNA, your way of seeing the world and wanting to change it. Your way of understanding others. And I hope you do the same with me..
Who cares? Maybe people like you or me
As Sting says, "sé tu mismo, no importan lo que digan” (be yourself, no matter what they say). That way you will connect, you will transmit confidence. Another question is how to expose me. I would say that dozens of selfies in the WC don't matter to anyone. Neither the chronic jinx, the pathological pessimist or the one who replicates what others say without proposing a story and a proposal of his own. Working on the personal story is a nice challenge. I invite you to share it.
PD: Manuel Miguel Hernandez to always Pujadas
Today I learned that he died Manuel Miguel Hernández Pujadas, Coach, consultant, University professor, mentor, adviser, change manager, communicator and strategist. I met him at 2016 as one of the speakers of TEDx Lleida. We shared stage, nerves and laughter.
I can only tell you what you said at the end of your talk, "May the Force be with you". And I can do more, leave here your legacy in the form of a talk about the secrets of good communication. Have a good trip, my friend!