I read an interesting article Pete Leiman, author “I Got My Dream Job and So Can You” it reveals a error common, seemingly innocent, we make very often when we meet someone who does not see time.
- ONE: How are you? How are you doing?
- OTHER: Well you can see, one year older and a little fatter
Leiman warns that this conversation is doomed to follow a very different path to type a reply “"Good!. I had my first child and my life has changed for the better since, I can not complain!”.
In the first case you are forced to ask why age and obesity, a conversation little positive. The issue here is that if it had been a first meeting, Mr. “Other” certainly he had not responded with the old and fat.
This obsession self-degradarse It is deeply rooted in our culture: Typical answers to how are you? son, for example:
- If you do not go into details, good
- I've been better
- Taking, doing
- Well, I can not complain at all
- Are bad times
Although very familiar everyday expressions, the truth is that condition the conversation and lead to a depressive scheme, from which nothing good can come.
Leiman stresses that, instead of that, demos a good reason to rejoice the meeting. Try to be positive in times of crisis, safely, be different, leave a management interesting. On a positive conversation it is more likely to appear possibilities of a new personal or professional reunion they can leave benefited both parties.
Smile, that something is.